Thorns n Roses: Biblical Womanhood

What is Biblical Womanhood? As I start thinking of what I would write for the May issue of Thorns & Roses, which purpose is to expose the lies the world tells us, I wanted to write something about Mothers. I wanted to expose all the lies the world tells us about motherhood, but the article really wouldn't be about motherhood nor wifehood. I came to the conclusion after much thought that the term Biblical Womanhood was what I was looking for.

The reason being because when we as young ladies , soon to be women, fulfill Biblical Womahood we are not only women, but wives, mothers, and elderly women in the church. When you do what the Lord has instructed women to do, you will then be a Biblical Woman.

Mothers play a big role in a lot of peoples' lives. Whether it's a biological mother or some who acts as a mother or someone who is like a second mother to you, we all have one. There are a lot of types of Mothers. God designed the family where the Man leads and disciplines and the Mother cares and loves. He gave us Mothers. He put a special place in us that Mothers are to fill. When we don't have a mother or a motherly-figure in our lives, we feel empty.

A few years ago I heard a girl about fourteen or fifteen years of age say, that to marry and live your life as a Biblical Woman was to put yourself at everyone's feet and be a doormat, especially to the husband. My heart ached for this girl because she had been raised to view the role of a woman, as intended by God, as a disgrace and insult to oneself.

I hold this whole topic very near and dear to my heart, and I have been writing and speaking out against this lie for over two years in the public's eye. In doing so I have received many strong, disagreeing replies and emails about it. It is so foreign to so many that I, a lot of times, sound like some brain-washed Christian. Before I go on, I want to let you know, whether you agree with me or not, that I am not brain-washed and I know that women can do anything. That is not the subject in question.

The purpose of which woman was made was to be a help meet for a man. This is very clearly stated in Genesis 2:17-23, but it certainly doesn't mean you must lay down and be walked all over. According to the Bible, men and women are absolutely spiritually equal in God’s sight. We are both sinful, and we both need God’s grace to be forgiven. However, the Bible portrays clear and distinct roles for men and women. Men are to be leaders, and women are to be followers. That doesn't mean women are to be doormats or subjectable to all men. Young ladies are to be under the authority of her parents until she marries (Genesis 2:24) and wives are to be under the authority of their husbands (1 Peter 3:1). A wife is simply commanded to submit to her husband. Submission doesn't mean you're weak; it's an example of your love and devotion.

The world tells you that to be a full-time Mother you have to give up so much for yourself. You have to give up having your own career, money, and other luxuries, but is that so? Yes, when you are a full-time Mother you do give up having all those things, maybe going without, but the Bible says not to lay up for yourself treasures on earth. Instead lay up for yourself treasures in heaven as Jesus says in Matthew 6:18-20. Because we live in a pagan world they don't understand that, and half of them don't even believe in heaven or trust in the promises Jesus made to us, which is why we can't listen to them.

Fulfilling the role of a Biblical Woman is such a beautiful thing, and it just saddens me to see what the whole idea of it has become to many. They view it as a bondage, when in fact it is a blessing. As Christians we are to always follow what the Word says, and in Titus 2:3-5 God gives instruction of how to be Biblical Women as well as in Proverbs 31:10-31.

Biblical Womanhood is a perfect picture of what Christ and the Church is. Jesus was under the authority of God the Father. He did not do his own will, but deferred to The Heavenly Father, even unto Christ's own death on the cross. Families are the same. We as women have an authority, our husband, who we are to defer to and respect. Was Jesus any less worthy than God the Father? No, of course not. Is a woman less valuable than her husband? No. We have different roles and responsibilities before the Lord.

2 Corinthians 4:5 says that "For we preach not ourselves, but Christ Jesus the Lord; and ourselves your servants for Jesus' sake."

In everything we do as Christians, and a Biblical Women, it must not be for ourselves, but for Christ, because He laid everything down for us. Don't listen to the lies of this world. The world and all it's treasure shall pass away, but the treasures we store up.... Godly traits, being obedient to our parents/husbands, training our children.... shall never pass away and will await us as a golden crown when we come to Jesus in the Last Days. If we do all this Jesus will be able to say "Well done, good and faithful servant"!

I pray that you will embrace your role as a young woman and that God will bring you a loving and gentle leader to be your husband one day. True freedom comes in obedience to the Word of God.

I look forward to your replies on this article!
Blessings to you as you Grow in the Grace of our Lord!