I once wrote an article on being socialized or un-socialized. I pointed out the that many kids who spend their time hanging out with their friends, doing nothing of importance are less intelligent than kids who spend time in the company of wise and intelligent adults and youth. Being homeschooled has allowed my siblings and me a great advantage of being in the company of adults, learning their traits, rather than my peers. People are sorely lacking on socialized skills in today’s culture. Children are allowed to waste their time away while not in school. They have so many gadgets now that all they have to do is sit around and push a few buttons. They don’t have to use their intelligence or brains too often.
When I had posted the article I received many replies, pointing out that it's not necessarily about being socialized as much as it's about to whom you are socializing with. I agree most definitely. One commenter replied and said, “I think that a lot of kids are more socialized than homeschoolers, but it's a negative socialization. Much of our culture is simply rude, vulgar, and totally self-seeking. Why would we want to become socialized into that kind of society? We want a respectable socialization (even if there is less of it) - polite, honorable, and Christ-centered. “
Another commenter said, “There is bad socializing and good socializing. I am kept home because my parents want me to have good socializing. People often misconstrue this as parents wanting to control their children. I disagree. As I've observed in my short lifetime, many homeschooling parents keep their children home to train them in the teachings of the Bible. They keep them home, away from the world, to socialize them with people of good and godly traits. They do not want them to act like the ornery children who live across the street, so they don't send them to the same school; they keep them home. It is not a big surprise that more often than not homeschool children are more polite and engage in suitable conversations. Most have been socialized with people of good quality. When children that aren’t often pick up dreadful habits and horrible social skills.”
Why do a lot of today’s younger generation have bad social skills? I think I can safely say that it is because they are left to their own decisions on how spend their time, they develop bad socialize skills from each other. Not all bad social skills are simply ones like wasting your time doing brainless activities or not knowing how to make an intelligent conversation. No, they are others like watching too much tv or playing on the computer instead of spending time in the Word. As young ladies striving to be like Christ. We ourselves must be careful whom we socialize with, on the internet and in real life.
Let me use an illustration a dear friend once told me so you can get a clear picture. Let’s say the world and the badly socialized people are muddy, and let’s say we as Biblical young ladies are like a white, pure, clean glove. If we spend all our time with people who are muddy are we as gloves going to be muddy or make them glovey? More than not we will be more influenced by the muddy people than we will make them glovey.
This, of course, doesn't mean we shouldn't be friendly or witness to those who are socialized badly, because I definitely don’t believe that. However, we must make sure we aren't picking up their bad or sinful social skills. We must be held accountable for the time we spend with others and what we are doing. After my sister spent some time with some of those badly "socialized" kids, she started saying "like" in every sentence and having a worldly attitude towards the authority in her life. My parents had to pull her back to the Word and away from the World. They had to wash all the mud that had stained her as a pure, white glove of the Lord.
The assignment from Polished Cornerstone tells young ladies to spend time with Godly women, per se, the Bible references... its basis is to socialize girls with the people with whom they should model to be like. We are to study these women’s good traits and to become a more pure, more white, and more clean glove.
The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 15:33, "Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners." This verse is clear on whom we should socialize ourselves with, both for our spirits and our lives. Our parents have been put in charge of us to keep us from "evil communications" so they do not "corrupt good manners". Always be listening to the Godly authority placed over your life and be careful how and with whom you spend your time.
Blessings to you as you Grow in the Grace of our Lord!
Isaiah 64:4
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I read what you said about making the world "glovey" and she laughed. It is so true, and so desperately important that we keep ourselves clean.
I absolutely love GIG, and I read nearly every article. Everything is so true, applicable, helpful, and encouraging.
Have a very bright, and very cheerful day!
Eyebright
Interesting comparison, Miss Jocelyn.
It is SO nice to hear a young lady such as yourself say these things. It's sad that when we say 'today's culture'...well it's just such a different culture than from when our grandparents were teens. To say 'American culture' is such a bad example now a days. Time to develop a new culture eh? ;O)
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