What is a friend?? Over my short life span, I have had ONE good friend that has stayed by me since we met. Katie and I met in 4th grade and have been friends ever since. We used to do everything together. I would go to her house and stay and swim, and she would come to mine and like being on the farm.
Over the years, we both left the church we had met at, so we didn’t see each other as often as we would have liked. Since Katie went to public school, during the school year we saw each other even less.
We don’t talk to each other every day or every week and sometimes not every month. But I know that if I needed something, I could call her and vice versa. I can count on her to be there if I need her, and she I.
She is a real friend. Even when we don’t talk for awhile, we know that we are friends, and it will always be that way. We have a great and true relationship. If I don’t hear from her, I don’t wonder if she is mad at me. There is no doubt between us. If there was something wrong she would say it.
We don’t talk to each other every day or every week and sometimes not every month. But I know that if I needed something, I could call her and vice versa. I can count on her to be there if I need her, and she I.
She is a real friend. Even when we don’t talk for awhile, we know that we are friends, and it will always be that way. We have a great and true relationship. If I don’t hear from her, I don’t wonder if she is mad at me. There is no doubt between us. If there was something wrong she would say it.
Now on the other side of the coin, I have had friends that were only lukewarm friends. They were friends to my face, but when we weren’t together, or when I stopped seeing them, I got no phone calls, no emails, no nothing. Even though I called and emailed them.
I even went to see a girlfriend once after she had had surgery. When I was not invited to one of their weddings, I was so very hurt that I did not get an invitation to that wedding, because I had been one of the first to know about it. The sister talked to me about it, and when the wedding time came I received nothing. I stopped seeing them; in their eyes I ceased to exist. I was different than them, so they didn’t really care to be with me. I had actually thought that they were my friends.
I found out that they weren’t. It was a hard lesson. It hurt me. Since moving to where I live, I have met people I thought cared about our family and I, but come to find out that when the rubber met the road, they were not who they portrayed themselves to be. They were not our friends. They chose to be popular, rather than standing up for what was right.
I even went to see a girlfriend once after she had had surgery. When I was not invited to one of their weddings, I was so very hurt that I did not get an invitation to that wedding, because I had been one of the first to know about it. The sister talked to me about it, and when the wedding time came I received nothing. I stopped seeing them; in their eyes I ceased to exist. I was different than them, so they didn’t really care to be with me. I had actually thought that they were my friends.
I found out that they weren’t. It was a hard lesson. It hurt me. Since moving to where I live, I have met people I thought cared about our family and I, but come to find out that when the rubber met the road, they were not who they portrayed themselves to be. They were not our friends. They chose to be popular, rather than standing up for what was right.
So what is a friend?? The only true friend that we can look to as an example is Jesus. While writing this article, I couldn’t help but think of one of my favorite hymns, “What a Friend We have in Jesus”. It means so much just to know that I have someone who will bear all my sins and griefs.
It is a privilege to carry them all to Him. Jesus is the best friend you can ask for.
John 15:13 says, "Greater love hath no man than this, that a man laydown his life for his friends." (KJV)
Jesus did that for us. He laid His precious life down as payment for our sin.
Friends, true ones, love you through everything, with everything and in everything. Friends are important. My best friend is my Sister, Jocelyn. Where can you have a closer friendship with someone than your sister? Jocelyn and I spend just about all of our time together. We can tell each other anything and everything. She loves me, and I love her.
If you have a sister who is close to your age, become best friends with her. You will always have your sister. One of my favorite times I have with Jocelyn is when it is freezing outside and in our room at night, and we share a bed and snuggle up close to keep other warm. We tell each other our thoughts on events that happened that day, or our dreams of the future, or of things we want to change or were upset about. We can count on each other to understand our meaning and lift us up in prayer.
Aside from my friendship with my sister, I have also been blessed with true friends from blogging. Since blogging I have met many friends who are like-minded. They are kindred spirits. We agree on a lot of subjects, but not all. Which is good because we can then talk, not argue, about the differences and learn something from each other. I am so happy that God brought this opportunity for me to have these friendships I hope to keep throughout my life. They are genuine.
A part of friendship we need to always keep in mind is that if you are offended, that you tell the person. That you don't just ignore them or not tell them. We need to talk to each other about it. We need to not have division in the body of Christ and that includes friendships.
True and Kindred friends are a rare thing nowadays. God places people in our lives for a reason. We need to make sure that we do everything in our power to be the image of Christ to all, even Christians.
Here is a little piece about friendship:
Friends
There are no coincidences. There is a reason for everything.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
There are no coincidences. There is a reason for everything.
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life, whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.
Like Proverbs 18:24 says, "A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother." (KJV) In order to have friends, you must be a friend first.
And now for a giveaway! GGM has a pretty pink ball point pen from Claire's to give away to one reader, USA only please, when you share this link on your blog. Invite your friends so that they may have a chance to win as well. You can use your new pen to write a lovely letter to a true friend. Be sure to have your parents permission if you are under 18 and leave a link where you or your mom can be contacted. Let us know once you have the link posted and we'll add you to the entry list.
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So true Miss Amanda. I have a friendship that was once so close and now it seems as though she's just an acquaintance. No matter how busy I get, I make time to contact a friend.
My best friend and I met when we where about a year old. We are both almost 17. She and I do most of our taling cross-country (we moved 2 years ago) by mail. I have posted a link to your giveaway on my blog.
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