By definition, 'restoring' means:
1.to bring back into existence, use, or the like; reestablish: to restore order.
2.to bring back to a former, original, or normal condition, as a building, statue, or painting.
3.to bring back to a state of health, soundness, or vigor.
4.to put back to a former place, or to a former position, rank, etc.: to restore the king to his throne.
5.to give back; make return or restitution of (anything taken away or lost).
We feel that old fashioned Christian courtship has been lost and we have a desire to 'restore' courtship. My husband, Brother Scott, attended a men's leadership seminar where this topic was taught in great detail.
Courtship by definition means:
Obsolete. courtly behavior; courtesy; gallantry.
Gallantry:
1.dashing courage; heroic bravery; noble-minded behavior.
2.gallant or courtly attention to women.
3.a gallant act, action, or speech.
As a young lady, your first and foremost relationship is with the Lord Jesus. Your first earthly relationship is with your father. The manner in which we place importance, respect, and honor on our relationships with the Lord and our fathers will be the example of what kind of wife you will become. A wise young man will know this and recognize in you qualities that are becoming of a virtuous woman.
Our desire is not to promote betrothal or 'dating' as our world defines it, but rather re-establish the parents role in assisting and guiding their daughters in developing a strong relationship with their Lord, and earthly father, in their lives and in regards to preparing for a Biblical marriage.
We have a desire to spread the word to the world today, that we are in fact 'Restoring Courtship'. Below on our side bar, you'll see a tag to identify yourself with, as a young woman who is striving to restore courtship as a godly heritage for the family you will one day have. Mothers, you may use this tag as well to share with your friends and loved ones that this is, in fact, a principle of great importance.
We will be adding new information and devotions in regards to 'Restoring Courtship' in the upcoming months. You can read all Restoring Courtship Articles Here
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
Restoring Courtship
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Beautiful, BEAUTIFUL message. I definitely want my daughter to grow in Christ this way! (I should print this and keep it until shes a bit older!)
Great message! I'm grabbing a button right now!
This is a blessing to see! I almost wished my parents went along on some my dates just so they would act right! What a waste of time! My husband found me through a friend. :o)
Lisa
mom of three
That was such a wonderful message!
I put a link on my blog.
Brooke
I was drawn to this based on the title. My husband and I courted and was truly blessed as a result. God has graciously used our courtship for His glory during that time. We shared our testimony in many "True Love Waits" conferences that various churches were having in our area. It's amazing how this was "strange" to some believers. Some even were amazed at our standards of not holding hands and kissing until we were married. But, we are so happy with the obedience. We look forward to teaching our kids this godly priniciple as well.
I'm a new teen mom. What is courting? How is it different from dating? Is there a book you would recommend? teenmom
Hello TeenMom,
Courting is a way of two young adults to get to know one another with the supervision and guidance of the parents. To enter into a courtship is a way that parents allow their daughter or son to develop a relationship with someone with the goal being marriage. The traditional courtship is one that involves being the only 'dating' relationship you have before marriage. You would only enter into a courting relationship one time in your life. With the man who will be your husband. It's the step you take before being engaged. Participating in a courting relationship is not the same as dating. The way our culture today views dating is not a biblical practice.
A book for those who have already being participating in the culture and practices of dating would be 'I Kissed Dating Goodbye'.
We are currently reading other courtship books before making a public recommendation.
Thank you SO much for this post! I really like the way you break down what " restoring courtship" really means and how biblically sound it is. Its such a great message to those (especially) new christians who only know about the dating scene!
Thanks again:)
--Mia
Thank you for your posts and guidance. We have two daughters and a son. It is our desire to rear our children in such a manner that they would be set apart. Courting is certainly one of those ways. We want our daughters to be treasured and we want our son to love his future bride as Christ loves the church. I look forward to reading more of your posts on this issue.
Blessings,
Kim
My sister in law and I were just talking about this subject. I'm so glad to find others examing it as well.
This is exactly what I want for my children. Thank you for this!
I wish my parents had taught me about courtship when I was growing up. Sadly, they weren't believers and I grew up following worldly attitudes toward relationships that were unhealthy. This in turn led to a failed marriage and a lot of hurt.
Now as a believer I've read much about the importance of servanthood in relationships ~ including those that may lead to marriage and I'm glad I can now teach my children the importance of courtship and God honouring relationships.
I pray the Spirit will move more and more young people to see that happiness can't be found in the temporal pleasures of this world and that TRUE LOVE is something far far deeper then anything physical.
God bless you for this wonderful site.
Debbie
Amen, Amen, Amen....What a great post! I was saved as an adult, these truths could have saved me so much heartache! I am exited though to teach my children about this wonderful truth :)
Blessings,
Brandie
I read Joshua Harris' book when I was about 12 or 13, as well as Eric & Leslie Ludy's story (I forget the title of their book). My husband was the first guy I ever dated, and although I still participated in some behavior that I regret, overall, understanding the courtship pattern definitely saved me from a lot of pain and heartache.
For those parents teaching their kids about courtship, I'd recommend talking to your kids about the heart of the issue-- you will never be the spouse your future spouse needs if you don't have a realationship with Jesus. Young people who get their self-worth affirmed via their relationship with Christ are much less likely to seek out silly, temporary, destructive relationships that have no goal of marriage.
God bless! :)
My daughters and I read a book called "Before I meet my Prince Charming". I would recommend all young girls 11-16 to read this to begin thinking the right way about
courtship.
~Renee
I saw the title of this post on the blog of a sweet Christian young teen that I know. I was definitely intrigued! I have a son (he's only 5 now!), and I would love to teach him about courting rather than the worldly dating scene. I look forward to more about the subject, especially if you have any info specifically for boys.
Hi! I am new to the Blog world and just found your site.It is wonderful to see people restoring to courtship! I too was saved just before marriage, but never heard of courtship until 10 years ago. I have been seeking books and other resources to use in order to teach my children Biblical Courtship. I found a wonderful message if you are interested , email me...morethandecals@gmail.com
By His Grace,
Heather
www.handfulsonpurpose.blogspot.com
Just found your blog today from another blogger. I love this post. I had never even heard of the idea of courtship until we moved here to Georgia 2 years ago. Our church strongly believes in it, and I do as well. My husband doesn't want our girls to ever get married, so I'm sure he'll want to learn more about this as time goes on. I would've been SOOOOOOOOOOO much better off, had my parents followed this.
Thank you Kristilea. My husband heard about parent led courtship a while back and hadn't said much to me about it, until my daughters brought it up. From the testimonies we have seen and heard from others who live this way, they knew it was what they wanted. We are thankful we didn't have any rebellion about it. Most of their acquaintances are already 'dating'. Even the ones as young as 13 years old.
Sisterlisa
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